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Meet Jerrie….Ms. September!
Who Is She: Jerrie Rutlege
Age: 47(48 in two months)
Occupation: Change Manager at Bank of America
Why We think she is Girlfriend of the Month:
I met Jerrie about 6 years ago and I have to say I was immediately drawn to her and her personality. She is someone whom I admire very much. She is so comfortable in her own skin..(where I hope to be one day) and she epitomizes a strong, independent woman. She is such a positive person, has the most contagious smile and you can’t help but love her. She is successful at work, as a single mom and as a friend! After you read more about her, you will know why she is our Girlfriend of the Month. I just love her!!!!
How did you come to do what you are doing?
I have been fortuante to work for a large corporation over the past 20+ years. I have been able to work in a variety of roles and learn so many things.
Have you always been driven?
I have but it has come in many different forms. Some of my drive is survival and some of it is going for my dreams. I grew up poor in a very tough neighborhood. We were on welfare; there was crime and drugs. I vowed I did not want that for the rest of my life. I chose to get out of that enviroment through education, finding mentors and being persistent. I was also driven to be good at what I did. I had goals at work and I worked hard for each new role and promotion. I think I am able to apply the survivor mode into my drive to be what I want to be, to try new things, to learn new skills and keep me moving forward.
Does money motivate you?
Money is great-can’t lie there. It pays the bills and allows me to do the fun things I do. But I would not say it is my motivator in ally situations. I have taken jobs for the learning and opportunity without worrying about the pay raise or other money factors. The new skills, capabilities and knowledge can be so much more valuable than the initial promise of money.
If money doesn’t motivate you, what does?
I am also motivated by how I feel when I am involved in something I enjoy. I have had a passion for horses since I was very young. I am in a place in life now that I can truly enjoy it and share this with my daughter. My passion motiveates me to find time to be at the barn, to be up EARLY for horse shows with my daughter and to learn about horses. Having a passion for something helps motivate me for sure. Now if I can only devleop a passion for the gym….
What is your defintion of success and what makes you feel successful?
Success for me is being happy in your skin and the life you are in. Success is not just about money, it is not about power, I think success is about making thoughtful choices and going for it! Success is living happy, giving to others, and reaching for your dreams!
How do you chase away the bad thought demons or those nasty gremlins of self-doubt?
Oh, and those gremlins like to follow me around! Work and life can be tough! There are many opportunities to doubt yourself and your actions. I have learned to not fight the fates and as a very close friend of mine always says “everything happens for a reason”. I truly believe that and when something does not go my way; I have learned it’s usually for the best! I am also so thankful for the wonderful group of friends I have around me. They keep me from going to my own pity party. They encourage me, remind me of my strengths, make me laugh and help me keep it real. Also, a skill taught to me by another amazing friend is critical reflection. Use reflection to think about situations you are in or just occurred. What went wrong, what could have been done differently, what would you do next time. Its just as powerful in what went right, what role did you play and how can you do that again! It takes the doubt away and empowers you and keeps the gremlins at bay!
Who inspires you?
Girlfriends of course! I have several friends who inspire me for different reasons. I have a very good friend who is an amazing caretaker. I am so inspired of her ability to give in so many situations and make people around her feel special and taken care of. I always feel better just being around her and it makes me want to try harder to be a better person. I also have friends who dedicate so much of their time to helping animals and work tirelessly to foster, rehome and rehabilitate them. It is a blessing to witness people following their passion and their love for something. I have friends who are strong businesswomen and still keep it real. They have inspired me in my career, my learning and how to be professional and still be me.
Have you ever had any mentors or been able to mentor somebody?
I love mentors! I truly owe so much to the people who have mentored me. I think having a variety of mentors is a must. Each mentor can provide a view into very different aspects of your life. You can have a mentor on presenting, on planning, on career development, and I like having a different mentor on each skill or area you are working on. I think its important to set up a formal plan of what you hope a mentor can provide to you, help them understand your expectations, check in often, listen to them and share in success for both of you! I mentor people too…and its s gift to share. I have had lots of great success and feel so happy when you can help someone learn something new, guide them, and share your experiences.
Do you believe in luck?
I do believe in luck, fate, and chance. Some things I feel are just unexplainable! I have had wonderful experiences where I can’t explain what happened as anything but luck! I do believe that luck is balanced with choices and actions too!
What kind of advice would you give other women reading this interview?
Give yourself a break. Love who you are. Surround yourself with good people and friends. Get a mentor to help you. Give, give, and give…it feels sooooo good and in giving you grow and you never know some poor scrappy kid you help could use that help to turn their life around . Keep a log of things and time when you felt happiest.
What makes you happy?
I really enjoy being crafty. It takes me away from the stresses of the day. Nothing like paint and a glue gun! I also really enjoy trail riding – so peaceful and can’t help smile from ear to ear with the beautiful scenery and nature at its best!
How important is having girlfriends to you?
VERY IMPORTANT! I am so “lucky” to have some of the most amazing girlfriends ever. They are accomplished, funny, inspiring, intelligent, warm, caring and are always there for me. My girlfriends are fascinating, from the lives they lead, the things they are involved in the relationships they have, the careers they have….I learn so much from them.
What are you thankful for?
I am thankful for the many chances I get to keep trying to figure out who I will be when I grow up. I am thankful for my love for horses and how it has offered me something to share with my teenage daughter as she grows up and wants less mommy time. I am also thankful our horse is the man in her life for now! Ha! I am thankful for my friendships and how each one has helped me grow.
What time do you get up in the morning?
Usually 6 or 6:30. On weekends the dogs will sometimes let me sleep in until 7:30!
What is your one indulgence or splurge?
I guess wine could be an indulgence – I love a good glass of wine! My splurge is anything horse related. I am always buying some type of gizmo I know I just need!
I love this one.
One day my daughter was trying to tell my son a joke she had learned and the conversation went like this:
Summerlyn: “Mac, why did the chicken cross the road?”
Mac: “What chicken?”
I know that wasn’t the intended punch line, but I laughed so hard I almost wrecked the car.
My 5 year old son and I were talking the other day about bugs and creepy crawlers outside and such and he looks at me and asks me “Can a wasp sting an ant?”
“Ummm….I really don’t know, Mac.”
What would you be doing if money wasn’t an object? I don’t mean like if you won the lottery. That tends to elicit different, more fantastical and over the top responses. This is slightly different. What would you be doing, what would your day to day look like if you didn’t have to work for money or if you just didn’t need that much of it?
Hard to tell if this was an Asperger’s conversation or a typical 5 year old conversation, but it was funny nonetheless!
Mac: “I want to have pajamas with zippers on them, but I don’t want to zip them up.”
Daddy: “Won’t they fall off then?”
Mac: “Then I want pajamas with buttons but I won’t button them up.”
Daddy: “Won’t they fall off then, too?”
Mac: “I just want to sleep in my underpants.”
Are you ready to push yourself and accomplish a goal? This will have great benefits to your body and you will not be doing it alone. Join us in this Squat Challenge for the next 30 days. Let’s see if we can tighten our butts and firm our legs…..mine definitely needs it…
We will start on Monday, August 19th. Follow the schedule below and as we go through this together, leave us some comments and let us know how you are doing. We all want to know when you encounter difficulty with your bathroom breaks and resorted to Depends because you can no longer get up off the toliet!
To create a bread coating recipe mix that you can use on chicken, you will need the following:
2 cups dry bread crumbs
1/4 cup flour
2 tbsp paprika
4 tsp salt
2 tsp sugar
2 tsp onion powder
2 tsp ground oregano
1 tsp ground red pepper
1/2 tsp garlic powder
1/4 cup solid shortening
Mix all of the dry ingredients together. Then add shortening and combine until mixture is crumbly. Store in an airtight container.
Dip chicken pieces in milk and then coat with the bread coating mixture
“Things are only impossible until they’re not.”
– Jean-Luc Picard
Name: Melissa Davis (Mel)
Occupation: Certified Fitness Personal Trainer
Why we think she is Girlfriend of the Month material:
There is hardly a thing about Mel that DOESN’T make her Girlfriend of the Month material. Despite several very serious and debilitating illnesses in the past 5 years, she manages to be the absolute picture-perfect, positive attitude, can-do girl. Mel is the perfect girlfriend. She is supportive of all of her friends’ endeavors, always has a kind or inspiring word to say, always looks on the bright side and is, in general, one of my favorite people to be around because of all of her aforementioned attributes.
Q: How did you come to do what you are doing?
A: I’ve been an avid gym-goer for most of my adult life. I’ve always dreamed of being a personal trainer and helping people with their fitness goals and healthy eating habits. Although, I got caught up in the corporate America world working for an insurance company for the past 23 years, I still never lost hope of my dream. I stuck with my same routine, even when I received my diagnosis of Ulcerative Colitis in 2008. It was then, after my recovery, that I decided to become a Certified Personal Trainer and Nutritionist (Certified Dietary Manager). I am still employed at the insurance company during the day, but now I find time to help other people with their fitness and nutrition goals as a Personal Fitness Trainer. I look forward to the challenge and also challenging my “stronger” body each day.
Q: Have you always been driven?
A: No, not until I became older and “wiser.”
Q: Does money motivate you?
A: Sometimes it can motivate me.
Q: If money doesn’t motivate you, what does?
A: It’s more so the satisfaction of seeing clients AFTER I’ve trained them. They are usually pumped up with energy and a feeling of accomplishment, for example “Wow! That was great! I’m so glad I made that a part of my day!”
Q: Do you consider yourself successful? Why or why not?
A: I feel that I’m successful because of how my life is balanced and in alignment with where I should be. I’m successful at living my life in PEACE and making time to help people achieve their fitness and health goals one inch or one pound at a time. I am successful because I LOVE what I do. I feel I’m a success because I make time for family, friends, my dogs, and myself and I try to be continually balanced with all of the crazy things that happen in life.
I am a success at continuing to strive for personal achievements and raising the bar all of the time. I never want to stop learning and I never want to stop growing. I believe that having these qualities make me a success.
I also feel successful because I have overcome obstacles in my life: failed relationships, foreclosures, bankruptcy, repossessions, job loss and illnesses requiring hospitalization. But nothing can stop me from moving FORWARD.
I am a success because I inspire the uninspired, motivate the unmotivated and challenge the unchallenged.
Mostly, I am a success because I am ME.
Q: How do you chase away the bad though demons or those nasty gremlins of self-doubt?
A: I’m probably the same as everyone else in this category. Doing anything the first time is always the most difficult; feeling insecure, not confident, very nervous, like going back to college the first time, training my first client or first day at a new job. But, I’ve always had that thought in my head “if they can do it, then I can do it!”
Q: Who inspires you?
A: Women that can live life with calmness, little worry, have patience for anyone and have so much peace around them. I know very few women like this, but my mother-in-law is one of them. She seems to never have a lot on her mind and is always thinking of others. She always reaches out to help others in need, but she’s never in a rush and just makes life look so simple. I want to be like her.
Q: Do you believe in luck?
A: No, I don’t believe in luck, but I do believe in opportunities. If you feel one is right in front of you, you better grab it!
Q: What makes you happy?
A: BALANCE is key to having peace of mind for me. Not only do I need order, routine and a little chaos and drama in my life, but also special, quality time with my husband, my girlfriends, my dogs and my clients.
Q: How important is having girlfriends to you?
A: Very!! I need my girlfriends in my life. That is part of what makes me so very happy. It is part of my BALANCED life. Sometimes when time goes by and I haven’t made time with my girlfriends, I can tell because my attitude changes. I feel a “girl” always needs her “girlfriend fix”.
Q: I know you read a lot because we are always swapping book recommendations with each other. What is one of your favorite books to recommend?
A: I think it would have to be “Eat That Frog” by Brian Tracy.
Q: Do you have an anthem or song that you use to rally yourself?
A: Rallying myself to do my own workouts can sometimes be a challenge. More ofthen than not, I love getting up and pumping iron, but there are times that I don’t feel like it just like everyone else. This quote has pushed me through so many workouts that I didn’t feel like doing: “TRAINING IS A PRIVILEGE, NOT A PUNISHMENT.”
Q: What are you thankful for?
A: In March 2008, I was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis, causing me to be hospitalized for 2 weeks. I then returned home, still very malnourished and anemic. I took me a long while to get strong again and then in May I was diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer. Learning to walk to the mailbox at the end of the driveway was a huge feat for me. And this was after I used to do lunges down the driveway twice a day.
Then, in May of 2013 I was hospitalized for another 2 weeks. Unfortunately, the previous regimen of care wasn’t as successful and I now have to have infusion therapy every six weeks. It is known to have some side effects and commonly attacks the immune system. So, I have to be careful of catching any viruses or colds.
I was discharged from the hospital and couldn’t wait to begin my life again but another setback seven days after discharge landed me back in the hospital with blood clots. There were more scares, more medicine and more healing. I needed to heal quickly because I had really been looking forward to my planned vacation with my family in Ocean City, Maryland. There was no way I was going to miss it. But, because of the medicine I was on, my blood levels weren’t great and I had to give myself injections in the stomach for the next several days while I was on vacation just so they would let me go. It wasn’t fun, but I got through it with help from my family. Mainly from my sister saying “Mel, if you can get through 3 tattoos, you can certainly poke that little thing in your stomach!” I still laugh about it because she was right!
Each day is a healing process and I am still recovering. I am at about 85% right now and I just started back to work at my corporate job. My own fitness training is very limited but each day I am adding a bit more duration and intensity. I am excited to say that in August, I should be back to training clients and I can’t wait!
Q: What time do you get up in the morning?
Q: What is your one indulgence or splurge?
A: Bruester’s Birthday Cake Ice Cream. I’ve cut it down to only once a week, but I’m working on once a month.
I just visited this really cool website that has the greatest deals on all kinds of items. http://www.fatwallet.com provides you with the big specials all in one place where you don’t have to search all over the place for them.
So if you are interested in saving some money and not paying full price for items that you need, check the site out. I gotta tell you that I was eyeing quite a few items myself because the deals were so great.
Good luck with your savings…
Need a fun way to start your weekend? Come out an join us this coming Friday August 2nd for a gallery crawl in the South End area and there is a bonus with Food Truck Friday! I (Amy) love art, the creativity involved and can not wait to oooh and ahhh over all the masterpieces…..but I have to say I am super excited about the “Food Trucks.” All of the choices makes me giddy….wish I did not like food so much…but I do.
Please come out and join the GUTS girls for some relaxed fun. We will meet at 6:30 in the Food Truck area which is at the corner of Camden Avenue and Park Road. We will start with some food and meander through the galleries. Bring friends and enjoy!
Do you ever wonder why you can’t lose weight? Well, I do all the time. I think for me it is because I am not truly committed. I seem to commit with every new year that comes around just like half of America. I personally would like to lose 25 pounds. To some, that may not be a big number to lose but it feels like it when you have to change your eating habits. In my mind, I think about fried chicken, BBQ and hamburgers that I love to pick up and eat without thinking about the calories they amount to.
Probably, for half of America there probably was a time when we could stuff all those calories down and not worry about gaining one pound. As woman, we go on to marry and have kids which I think we can agree that these items alone account for the majority of our pounds that have been gained. We all hang on to that funny saying that we are simply still trying to lose our baby fat from giving birth years ago.
I must say, when it comes to food, there is a lot to sacrafice especially if you love food. Well, we have to remember that if we want to live longer and be there for our familes and friends, we must change our eating habits. I think living longer is not such a bad trade. So why can’t I stick to a plan and lose the weight?
There are so many weight loss plans on the market but what is the right plan for me? How do you decide on a plan and stick to it? Although I see the stars on TV representing a weight loss program, I feel as if they have the money to hire a personal trainer as well as a cook to help them meet their goals. For us average income folks, there are other means of support. For example employer’s are allowing employees to start a company based weight loss program to include weight loss challenges which really offer incentives as well as competition among work place employees who participate.
Employer’s are also offering incentives to employees for reduced insurance premiums if they complete an health risk assessment as well as take online classes. As employees complete the incentives, they then qualify for reduced premiums. You may also get to enjoy fitness activities at work depending on the type of job you have.
For those of us who travel for our jobs and participate in client dinners, controlling what we eat can make it even harder to stay on track. You may have to stick to a salad more times often then you would like to because of possible limited healthy choices. Salads can be filled with tons of calories as well and sometimes may not be a good choice so you need to watch those as well.
So I still ask myself, or should I say challenge myself to figure out the best plan. I know off hand there are alot of things that I currently do that I shouldn’t for example continue to do such as:
One day I will figure it out on how to stick to a plan to lose that 25 pounds I want. Here are 15 tips on some ideas that I found online that may help. Please leave your comments as well on what you have found that works for you:
1. Find a diet plan that incorporate the foods that you love
2. Find a support group to help you through those rough patches
3. Chart a diet plan that is going to be realistic for you. No crash diets. Crash diets can be dangerous and unhealthly
4. Start a food diary to track what you eat
5. Stop buying junk food. If you don’t keep any in your house, then you won’t be tempted
6. Control your portions — eat from a smaller plate so that it appears you have alot of food
7. Eat at least 5 meals a day to help avoid hunger. These 5 mini meals will keep your metabolism going
8. Cook differently — nine times out of ten your family won’t notice
9. Take your lunch to work everyday and pack healthy snacks
10. Don’t forget to reward yourself for good behavior
11. Be prepared by preparing meals in advance and snacks in advance also
12. Weigh yourself regularly. Don’t be afraid!
13. If you fall off the wagon, remember you can get back on
14. Learn your labels and know what foods you are putting into your body
15. Celebrate your successes. Reward yourself with something other then food. Go to a movie or buy yourself a new pair of shoes.
These are my tips so hopefully I can use them!
OK. I missed posting my update on Monday and we are already most of the way through this week, so we will call this week 3 and 3/4. Part of the reason I didn’t post is because I have been a little bit under the weather since Monday and all I really wanted to do was sit around or lay around. That is also part of the other reason that I didn’t want to post any updates because I haven’t really gotten a whole lot of exercise while sitting and laying around. I have managed to lose another 1/2 pound just by sort of watching what I eat but the whole exercise regime sort of went by the wayside last week.
No matter! I still have 10 days until my birthday and I can still make one last sprint toward the finish line and end up feeling pretty good by then…. I think.
I had the most awesome little dinner tonight! I sort of copied something my mom and I had gotten and a Peruvian restaurant in town on Sunday. Have you ever heard of stuffed avocado? Can you say YUM?!?! The one we got at the restaurant was stuffed with “veggies” and shrimp. I say “veggies” because as far as I can tell, I think it was just onions. At any rate, it was good. I tricked mine up a little bit because I didn’t have any shrimp on hand. I used chicken instead. You basically just remove the pit from the avocado and fill it with shredded chicken, sweet onion, celery, garlic powder and a little bit of mayonnaise. I guess it doesn’t sound like much, but it was actually delicious and since I didn’t use a whole lot of mayo, probably a wee bit healthier. But the best part?? It involved absolutely NO cooking whatsoever!
Fingers crossed and hoping that I can actually breathe out of my nose this week and get back into the gym!
Anybody got any healthy recipes for me to try this week? I’d love to hear your suggestions.
Onward to 40!
This is awesome!! Check out this article I found online. You can find the original article here: http://shine.yahoo.com/fashion/vogue-model-robyn-lawleys-plus-size-lingerie-campaign-184600373.html Warning: do not read her blog if you are hungry!!
She can probably afford it now. After replacing the campaign’s former plus-size model, Ola Jordan, who was six sizes smaller, Robyn is making headlines with her viral photoshoot. Lets be honest, the pictures aren’t only popular with female supporters. Dressed in a pink satin and lace bra and skimpy underpants, lounging on a sheepskin rug, normal isn’t the first word that comes to mind. Neither is “plus size.”
Former Plus size model: Size 10 model Ola Jordan was the company’s brand ambassador before Robyn (Boux Avenue)And that’s just the point. The UK brand’s Hidden Allure and After Hours Glamour lines, with sizes ranging from 8 to 20, are far from girdles. These lacy bras, undergarments and animal print slips, aren’t about reigning in waistlines but vamping them up. For now the mid-priced line (think $20-$40 range) is only available in the UK, but according the Boux Avenue website they “do their best” to accommodate international requests over email.
From an industry standpoint, Robyn’s campaign is proof that Victoria’s Secret skinny Angels aren’t the only skimpily clad models with cross-over sex appeal. (Remember when those runway models were considered “normal” because they had muscles?) From a consumer’s perspective, it’s also a sign of what’s to come: lingerie designed for showing off your curves, not hiding them.And as for Robyn, it’s the next step in a game-changing career.
You ever met a kid that absolutely REFUSED to allow their teeth to come out? I thought most kids looked forward to getting their loose teeth out and putting them under the pillow at night to awake in the morning in awe and wonder at whatever the tooth fairy left under their pillow. That’s pretty much how I remember my childhood.
My seven year old daughter, on the other hand, has never lost a tooth the “normal” way. Her first tooth came out in a washcloth when my aunt was washing her face. The second one just fell out when she was sitting in circle time in kindergarten and tumbled right onto the floor where the teacher had to pick it up for her (teachers really aren’t paid enough). The third and fourth ones were basically knocked out by her younger brother wielding trucks and ride-on cars. The fifth one came out in a bloody mess on a family beach vacation as she somehow managed to basically punch herself in the face as she was wrestling with the seat belt in the car (that was fun taking her to the grocery store with a bloodied shirt. I kept halfway looking over my shoulder to make sure they weren’t sending the cops after me). The sixth one she swallowed in the middle of the night and the tooth fairy was never able to collect on.
Here we are now at the seventh tooth. You would think there would be some acceptance or routine by now and that she finally would have caught on to the normal sequence of events- the tooth gets wiggly, you wiggle it some more, back and forth, side to side, twist it around and out it pops in a matter of days. Nope. Not the case. At all. There is absolutely no physical bond holding that tooth to her head at this point. It is just astounding. The only thing holding that tooth in now is sheer will and determination. This particular tooth once resided in the top right side of her mouth. It is now hanging so far down that it looks like it belongs to the grouping of teeth on the bottom left side of her mouth. I am mystified.
I keep telling her she has to get it out so she can properly brush her teeth and she keeps it in somehow and we have now been having this little argument for WEEKS.
If she is able to hold in a tooth with this kind of determination and tenacity, I can’t wait to see what kinds of things she can accomplish when she gets older. I just she gets a scholarship because I’m pretty sure I can’t afford tuition for Stanford, Harvard or MIT.
Here’s hoping we wake up toothless in the morning. Her, not me. That would be some wicked karma!
We enjoyed our first GUTS event at The Painted Parrot in Fort Mill. The event was a huge success and a great time was had by all.
The three of us were very excited to be able to host an event and bring together women that inspire us for an evening of good, old-fashioned female bonding and fun.
Our hostess was owner, Karen Norman.
We want to thank all who came out to join us for your support.
We are already underway with planning our next event. Details will follow soon and we hope to see you there!
To see more photos of the event, check the Guts Events page.
The GUTS Girls
Jennifer, Amy and Flo
Had an absolute BLAST last night at the Painted Parrot in Fort Mill. Pictures will be up tomorrow!